Havenwood Counselling
Clinical Counselling
Duncan, BC
Online across Canada
Clinical counselling for mental health, anxiety, depression, trauma, grief and loss, anger management, and relationship difficulties. Specializing in AEDP, Cohrence therapy & Symbolic Process.
Supporting adults, youth, families and public service workers
such as teachers, nurses, social workers and non-profit leaders.
Our sessions centre on experience, emotion, memory, and the therapeutic relationship.
In session we reach the feelings and meanings that shape your responses, including those that have been difficult to recognise or put into words.
We go deeper into where these responses may have come from, and what beliefs shape them. This deeper work is the transformational substance of true change.
Honestly, our inner worlds are complex.
I bring care, curiosity, humour and directness. Together, we work toward change, at the roots of the pattern.
What to expect in a counselling session
We begin with what is troubling you or what feels important.
I take an active role. I ask questions, reflect what I notice, and help us reach the feelings and experiences connected to your difficulty.
We may explore a memory, attend to a physical response, a conflict or a feeling. We notice what happens inwardly. We honour the symptoms, because they express deeper intentions, wishes, and needs.
When something significant emerges, we stay with it long enough to understand its meaning and intent.
Care includes working with discomfort
I am motivated by what changes for you and how you wish to change. That means I will sometimes invite you to stay with a feeling, memory, or reaction you would usually move away from.
I may ask a direct question, draw attention to something I notice, or help you return to something important that was difficult to express.
We approach that discomfort together. Our relationship needs enough trust for us to approach difficult experience honestly—and for you to challenge me, too.
We begin with your particular experience and explore what keeps the difficulty in place.
Concerns we can explore in experiential counselling
You may be seeking counselling for:
Anxiety, worry, or a persistent sense of threat.
Shame, self-doubt, or harsh self-criticism.
Withdrawal, conflict, or difficulty with closeness.
Trouble expressing needs, anger, grief, or vulnerability.
The continuing impact of painful experiences.
Recurring patterns that remain despite insight or previous therapy
Rumination or presistant unhelpful or unwanted thoughts
Self harming behaviours or thoughts or feelings
What change can look like
The purpose is for something to become different in your daily life.
A response that once felt unavoidable may become less compelling. You may have more room to choose, connect, and express yourself.
What happens outside the session helps us understand what is shifting and what still needs work.
EXPERIENTIAL PRINCIPLES
How we work with memory and emotion
Past experiences can influence what you expect from others, how you feel about yourself, and how you respond in the present.
You might anticipate rejection when you express a need, feel responsible for someone else’s disappointment, or become guarded when someone offers care.
Together, we explore the memories, emotions, and expectations connected to these responses. Sometimes a particular memory matters. Sometimes we begin with a familiar feeling or a situation happening now.
As we reach the roots of the pattern, we create opportunities for integration of a different experience—and for the pattern itself to change.
Meet Rubeena Sandhu, Registered Clinical Counsellor
Rubeena Sandhu is a Registered Clinical Counsellor (BCACC) who helps people move beyond unhelpful emotional survival patterns, distressing thoughts and beliefs, and helps clients meaningfully transform emotional pain, stress, anxiety and depression.
Her work is experiential, relational, and grounded in the neuroscience of emotional transformation, integrating evidence-based approaches with authentic human connection.
Clients often appreciate her honest, genuine, and relational approach. Alongside depth and compassion, Rubeena brings warmth and humour to the therapeutic relationship, even when exploring life's most difficult and existential experiences.
Her work seeks to create the conditions for meaningful and lasting change, while offering a space where you do not have to carry everything on your own.
In-Person Counselling in Duncan & Virtual Counselling
Havenwood Counselling is conveniently located in downtown Duncan, BC.
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